First of all, if you’re single I’m really impressed that you’re reading my blog… but anyway.
If you’re single and you’re looking for someone to marry I just want to share something that will make the rest of your life a little easier. Find someone who is passionate about the things you are passionate about. and don’t lie to impress someone. One of the things I remember doing when I was dating was caring more about things they liked than I really did. I’m not saying I pretended to like something, but I did exaggerate my love for certain things.
Don’t get me wrong, my husband and I love each other, and we share a strong, strong passion for Christ- the most important bond to make sure you have with your mate. However, while we were dating, I showed more interest in music than I do now. Back then I did care more about music, and I got into music more, but my love for music is not as strong as my husbands. We’re not having marriage problems or anything like that, but I do think life would be a lot easier if I loved music and movies as much as he did, and if he cared as much about exercise and keeping the house clean as I do.
Can we get by like we are? Most definitely. and we will. But for you singles your life will be a lot more peaceful and easy if you find someone who likes what you like. and remember, don’t lie to try to impress them!
UPDATE: After reading Beckie’s comment (Thanks Beckie) I realize this might have come off a little wrong than I meant it to. I don’t think that husband and wife need to spend all their time with each other. In fact, I think we all need time alone, or time away from the ones we love. I meant it would just be easier if your spouse understands that you really enjoy doing something, so it’s easier for them to let you do it.
I’ll use me and my husband as an example. Right now our kids are young, too young to leave alone for an hour or two so we can go do some things. I love running. It is my outlet, my stress relief and the thing that makes me stay calm. I’d love to run every day, right now I’m running 3-4 times a week. And just those 3-4 times a week can sometimes be a problem to get in due to making sure Eugene is around to watch the kids. Although he knows I love running and knows I need to run, it’s not as big of a priority to him as it is to me. Just like giving him time to drum- something he loves, is not as big of a priority to me. After reading Beckie’s comment I realized it would have been more proper to say make sure you marry someone who understands you enjoy what it is that you enjoy and is willing to make it a priority that you can do that thing. That is what will make life easier- not being selfish.
